Shyness

 How to defeat shyness: 

First, Why is it important to overcome my shyness?   I need to face the reality that unless I overcome shyness, I will die alone.  I will need to realize the greater fear of dying alone is greater. 

.....CBT hasn't helped. 

... I will have a first session with a dating coach this Friday.  She mentioned using exposure strategies as a way to work through my fears and shyness. 

... I have read a lot of books and workbooks but I think this didn't help because I failed to properly implement them. 

Insight from doing DBT workbook:  the more I avoid, the more likely I will avoid next time. 


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